For Whom the Bell Tolls

John Donne: Poems

For Whom the Bell Tolls  (No man is an island) by John Donne
		No man is an island, Entire of itself. Each is a piece of the continent, A part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less. As well as if a promontory were. As well as if a manor of thine own Or of thine friend's were. Each man's death diminishes me, For I am involved in mankind. Therefore, send not to know For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee.

UPDATE: Missing Provo teen found, later dies

Kurt Hanson Daily Herald

Jenna Ivins. Photo courtesy of Instagram.

44 minutes ago  •  Kurt Hanson Daily Herald

PROVO — A 14-year-old girl who was missing for 24 hours before being found Tuesday morning has now died.
Jenna Ivins went missing at about 8:30 a.m. Monday morning in the neighborhood behind the Walmart Neighborhood Market in Provo and was found in a canal near her home Tuesday.
Ivins never made it back from school, according to Detective Chris Chambers.  A post on Instagram says she also has Asperger’s. Chambers said the police believed she was a runaway child.
But she was found at about 10:45 a.m. Tuesday morning. Police reports state she was very cold when found. A member of the family reported she died shortly after.
More information will come as it is made available.

Kurt Hanson is the Breaking News and Courts reporter for the Daily Herald. He can be reached at (801) 344-2560 or khanson@heraldextra.com. Follow him on Twitter: @kthehanson.

Hannah called around noon.  "Mom, have you been listening to the news?"  I hadn't as preschool was just over and I was sitting down to lunch with Liam and Eva.
"Did you hear about the Provo High Student?  The one that went missing.  She's dead."  "I have seen her."  "I have treated her in the Sport's Room.  I never knew her name."  "She looked sad."

Isn't it interesting how little we think we impact other's lives, until we die? 
Maybe this will be a point of change for us.
We can look out for, smile, and get to know other's names and perhaps share some of another person's pain while traveling through this life journey together.

Later this evening while talking to Hannah who had had a long day she said, "I just want to forget it! (Jenna's death?)"  While we may feel that way when someone else dies and in the beginning we are shocked and then mourn and then want to move on with "our life" to do so, to do nothing, means that the person who died means nothing and that the grieving loved ones mean "nothing" to.

I was talking to a neighbor, Anne, about a lesson she learned after my brother Michael passed away two years ago.  She said, "I learned something visiting your parents with Clark and Colleen.  They were there to support Keith and Connie...to listen if they felt like talking or to be still if they did not,  to give a hug, and simply BE THERE for them."  How sweet!  Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could simply BE THERE for another in his/her grief!?  DO something.  Anything!  
I wonder often what is the right thing to do or say in a given circumstance?

A strong impression came to me today that if we act on Spiritual promptings to do something to share someone else' pain, we are uplifted and share in Christ' suffering and compassion.  in contrast, if we choose to do nothing, we are somewhat diminished because we did not act on the light and knowledge that came and now we are less likely to respond to a promt should it come again.  We do not share in mankind's burden.

How I wish in my life I would have know the comfort of someone just being there  for me.  Through late miscarriages, child accidents, brother/sister passings, cancer of a loved one, etc. the fact that someone was "praying" for me, or sent a card, or gave me a hug, or brought me flowers would have made a huge difference in helping me feel the love that Heavenly Father has for me/us but is difficult to find when a loved one dies.  Life goes on.  That can be one of the hardest things to deal with.  Life goes on (without ______).

We pray for the Ivins family and also to know what might bring any comfort at this tragic time.  We did not know them personally but our heart breaks for their pain.